Solve These Couples Conflicts and We’ll Tell You If You’re a Relationship Expert Personality

Created by Pooja on April 5, 2018

Dan and Ann keep getting into arguments. Dan is uncomfortable with how often Ann goes out dancing with her friends. Ann says it's inappropriate for Dan to tell her what to do. How do you advise them?

1Dan and Ann keep getting into arguments. Dan is uncomfortable with how often Ann goes out dancing with her friends. Ann says it's inappropriate for Dan to tell her what to do. How do you advise them?

I encourage Ann to find out if Dan is jealous, or feels that the problem is Ann doing something “sexy.” If Dan is feeling insecure, I suggest he work on those feelings himself.
I tell Ann it’s definitely inappropriate for Dan’s insecurity to dictate what she does with her free time and encourage her to continue doing what she wants.
I think they both have valid points and suggest Ann spend more time with Dan.

2Ellie comes to you saying that her boyfriend never listens. She says she communicates constantly, for example, "The trash is getting really full," but he never understands and takes action (or takes out the trash). What do you tell her?

Just keep trying. He’ll come around eventually.
Call him out on it. If he isn’t listening, he needs to shape up!
Try saying the same thing in a variety of different ways to get the point across.

3Two of your friends are getting married, and they're trying to decide whether to combine their bank accounts. What do you tell them?

Whether you combine or not does not symbolize how much you love each other. Do what’s most practical.
I’d suggest having a mix: one combined account for combined expenses but individual accounts so that each person still has some financial security.
Definitely combine all your assets. You’re committed for life. What are you afraid of?

Anna and Ellen have started to get in more fights lately, and Ellen has started yelling. Sometimes she curses at Anna. Anna comes to you looking for advice. What do you tell her?

4Anna and Ellen have started to get in more fights lately, and Ellen has started yelling. Sometimes she curses at Anna. Anna comes to you looking for advice. What do you tell her?

Anna should tell Ellen she feels very uncomfortable with it and asks her to fight more productively.
All couples fight. Anna just needs to learn how to move forward.
Anna needs to take care of herself when this kind of thing happens and ask friends for support.

5Olivia comes to you complaining about the fact that her partner Jacob never helps out around the house. How do you suggest they deal with it?

Olivia should just stop doing the housework until Jacob realizes how much she does.
It’s never good to make your partner feel bad about themselves, so she should make sure her requests are always polite and timed well.
Time for a CHORE CHART!

6Chad says that his partner always overreacts when criticized. What do you tell him to do?

Chad should ask his partner if there is any emotional history there; does it trigger a memory? Then they can work on finding less difficult ways to bring up problems when they know why he reacts so strongly.
That’s just how men are. They don’t like to be criticized.
I suggest he take a look at when he’s criticizing his partner: Is it during otherwise stressful times? Bring up issues during a calm, easy time.

Your friend tells you that they feel disappointed by marriage. They thought it would improve their happiness, but life seems just as hard as ever. How do you respond?

7Your friend tells you that they feel disappointed by marriage. They thought it would improve their happiness, but life seems just as hard as ever. How do you respond?

You suggest they spend more time with their spouse. Prioritizing the marriage will help!
I suggest they spend time alone and with their partner coming up with things that feel fulfilling and valuable to make their life more like what they imagined.
If their partner isn’t bringing them happiness, then they have to break it off immediately.

8For long-term success, which of these do you think is the most important in a relationship?

Trust
Communication
Chemistry

You run into a couple that has just gotten engaged, but one partner is Jewish and one is Christian, each with strong beliefs. How do you help them bridge the gap?

9You run into a couple that has just gotten engaged, but one partner is Jewish and one is Christian, each with strong beliefs. How do you help them bridge the gap?

I suggest that one partner converts to the other’s religion.
As long as their core values around children, marriage, loyalty, work, etc. are the same, they should focus on those and try to see the similarities rather than the differences.
They should pick one religion to raise their kids in and not talk about it otherwise.

10You find out that your partner has a long term, chronic illness. How do you approach facing the problem?

I promise that I’ll be there for whatever they need and support them through the problem, 100%.
I know that we’re a partnership and we’ll approach it together, but I also remember that I have to balance my own needs with theirs. They need a robust support system.
I treat them just how I always did. They’re the same person after all.

11Your best friends are about to get married. Which of these things do you expect them to have talked about before they tie the knot?

Kids
Long-term career goals
Sex

12William says he and his partner aren't having sex as much anymore, and he feels unwanted and lonely. What do you recommend?

I’d suggest they focus less on “sex” and more on intimacy. What are other ways they can feel close? Touch can be a variety of things, and when you’re comfortable and close to your partner, sex will come more naturally.
I recommend seeing a doctor to make sure there aren’t any physical issues.
William should surprise his partner with a clean house, beautiful meal, and stress-free zone to put them in the mood.

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